In recent decades, virtual visitation has become an increasingly dynamic tool that many co-parents use to stay connected with their children when they are residing with their other parent. Yet, not all virtual visitation arrangements are created equal.
Working to ensure that virtual visits are engaging and meaningful for kids of all ages can help co-parents facilitate strong relationships with their children across distances. As such, co-parents can benefit from altering their approaches as their children grow.
For young children (Ages 2-6)
Young children have shorter attention spans, so keeping virtual visits interactive and fun is generally a good idea. For example, parents and kids can read favorite books together. If you are the parent of a young kiddo, consider using expressive voices and asking questions to keep them engaged. You can also sing songs, and encourage your child to “show and tell” their possessions and artwork and so on. Finally, keep in mind that there are a variety of interactive apps and games that you can use to make your time more fun.
For school-age children (Ages 7-12)
School-age children can engage in more structured and varied activities. More sophisticated versions of the activities outlined for younger children can work. But parents can also engage in homework help, do arts and crafts together, cook together and even take virtual tours of zoos, museums and other sites worldwide.
For teenagers (Ages 13-18)
Teenagers are more self-sufficient but still need engaging activities to maintain strong connections. Virtual games, shared projects related to their particular interests and even working out together are great options for many families. At a minimum, having discussion topics at the ready that concern a teen’s interests can help conversations from stalling in ways that can be disheartening.
All ages
Regardless of the child’s age, certain strategies can help make virtual visitation more enjoyable and broadly successful. Consider:
- Consistent scheduling: Set regular times for virtual visits to create a routine. Consistency helps children look forward to and feel secure about these interactions.
- Personal touches: Personalize each visit. Start by asking about their day, acknowledging their feelings and showing genuine interest in your child’s world.
- Creative technology use: Utilize the features of your video call platform, like filters, backgrounds and screen sharing, to keep things interesting and fun.
Above all, be patient and flexible. Understand that sometimes things won’t go as planned, and that’s okay. The key is to keep trying and adapting to what works best for your child.
